Wednesday, December 21

Warning signals your child is low on confidence

                                             
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Teenager with low confidence stays aloof.

Low confidence in your teenager can restrict him/her to a shell. He may not be able to lead a healthy social life or tap his inner talent which he can otherwise do if he has faith in himself.

If you want to expand the horizon of your teenage child and desire to help him lead a happy life then check the probable signs of low confidence in your teenage boy or girl. Only if you are able to identify these warning signals, you can give the right direction to your child and make him more confident for anything and everything that comes his way.


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Warning Signals Your Child has Low Confidence


  • He avoids meeting/ communicating with his friends and class fellows; tries to stay aloof.
  • He avoids participating in challenges and competitions due to fear of failure.
  • The child gives in to the demands of his peer group and is not able to say "no".
  • He looks for approval for his decisions and actions every time because he is not confident.
  • He does not finish a task as soon as he feels difficulty and quits without trying enough.
  • He does not take the initiative and tries to hide when the situation arises to take responsibility.
  • He/ she blames people or situations for his own incompetency.
  • The kid has mood swings ranging from irritable behavior, anxiety, hopelessness, aloofness, and sadness.
  • He is self-critical and uses negative words for himself such as loser, fool, etc
  • He either rebels without a reason or is overly helpful to seek approval.
  • He tries to seek the attention of people around him through unreasonable actions.
  • He tries to control the people around him. 
  • He gets into drinking, drugs, tobacco, etc.
  • Some kids also go to denial mode that they are stressed out or have any fears.
                                       

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The teenager may have some of the above symptoms which clearly indicate low self-esteem in him. Once it is established, parents can look for possible reasons and ways to deal with the low self-esteem in their child. In fact, parents need to check if their words or actions leading to the low self-esteem of their child. To know more on this, check out this well-explained post-

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It will immensely help you to adapt to new ways of dealing with your kid and support him to gain confidence in himself.


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Friday, December 9

Are you hurting self-esteem of your growing kid?

                                                                      

While it's okay to feel low sometimes but feeling low about oneself continuously is not a good sign, especially among growing kids. Sometimes, even as parents, we can't estimate the causes of low self-esteem in kids. Several reasons make a child less confident and sadly, at times, parents contribute to low self-confidence in their own child.


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A kid with low self-esteem feels lonely and left out.

Now when a kid has deficient self-esteem then it needs to be rectified before it has a severe effect on the psyche and life of the kid. The first step to handling low self-esteem in your growing kid is to ascertain probable reasons for the same. Find out if you as a parent have done or undone something that is hurting the confidence of your child.

Reasons that hurt the self-esteem of growing kid


Let us check out probable causes of low self-esteem and make sure your tween/ teen is not going through the same:

When a kid feels neglected:


The absence of personal attention and support from parents may lead to low self-esteem in the kid. Whether parents are occupied with work or over-engaged on social media, providing quality time to kids is mandatory to make them feel secure. However, if you can’t keep your hands off your laptop or mobile while your kid is eager to share his story then he may feel neglected to cause a dip in confidence.

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When you over-interfere:

                                              
                                                   
Being over-caring can adversely affect the confidence of a child.


If you are one of those who make sure to instruct their tween now and then or check what they are doing all the time, then the child may feel you don’t trust his abilities. Your overindulgence in his every decision and action may erode his confidence to work and achieve independently. So better, keep a check on your over-caring attitude!

When you forget to appreciate enough:


You remember to pinpoint their mistakes but often forget to appreciate their small achievements or endeavors. Instead of showing the right path, if you become overly critical of his actions or use harsh words for the child, the result is your teen feels he is not good enough.
This is not what you want to happen, right?


When you compare with peers:


To boost the confidence of your child, you compare her to siblings or peers, but it backfired! Constant comparison of the performance or behavior of your child with others or pushing your kid to become like others will definitely cause serious damage to her self-esteem. Check this habit before it destroys the self-esteem of your child!


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When you do not respect:


Mocking their behavior in front of your friends or spelling out their weaknesses with other adults disgust your child. When you try to prove that your child is silly, not good enough or bad at something, he assumes that he is not worthy of his parents.

When you give up on your child:


        
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When you give up the hope that your teenager can improve, he also gives up his hope, you know. Your discouraging attitude and words have a deep negative effect on him that may not be reversible.

So, before you expect your child to be responsible, sensible, or anything else, check if you have any of the above habits that can damage his self-esteem. I hope these parenting tips for preteens and tweens will go a long to building healthy relationships with your growing child.


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Thursday, October 13

Proactive ways to avoid tantrums of kids in public

                                                   
Have you seen kids throwing tantrums in full public view, in the middle of the marketplace, in the park, or maybe at the clinic? You thought your kids will not behave like that, until one day your kid actually embarrasses you with an unstoppable tantrum. It is natural whether you like it or not.
However, it can be avoided, diverted, or managed with some proactive ways How? Let's read now!

Proactive ways to avoid tantrums of kids in public


Share your list of work to be done or shopping list 

                                                       
Start planning for a smooth shopping experience with your child from home itself. Share the purpose of your visit, the necessary things you need to buy/ do. Let him know how he will benefit if this task is done smoothly. Interestingly, the child will look forward to the shopping experience with you.


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Let the child make his own shopping list to avoid tantrums in public.

Allot specific tasks to your child while grocery shopping


Show your kid the items you need to buy such as corn flakes, biscuits, etc. Ask him to look out for these cartons/ packets while in the store so that he focuses on your purchases and not his own. This would prompt his participation in your work without getting diverted to other things that may lead to tantrums.

Ask your child to make his own list

 Ask your child at home to share what he/ she wants from the store and discuss whether you can fulfill that requirement or not. If the thing is worthy then note it down in your list in front of him so that he is assured that his demand will be met. So chances of the kid being happy and not cranky are higher!


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Never move out of the house on an empty stomach


Before you step out with your kid especially for shopping, always have a good meal/ snack time with him. That will ensure your toddler/ kid will not throw tantrum to buy a snack or drink for him as soon as you reach the store. Though it's a bit difficult that your toddler does not cry for anything at all yet you can take this proactive action.

                                           
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Also, you can allow him to carry his own small bag with his favorite snack, biscuit, book, and toy which may help him to stay engaged for a longer duration.

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Make rules and stay consistent

Tell your child clearly how to voice his demands when outside. Also, make clear he can have his way only if he is polite enough and tantrums will only lead to loss of rewards. In addition, you can inform him that you are going for a definite time to complete certain tasks and need to return on time.

You can give him options for enjoying his toy or listening to music or reading a book if he feels bored. All the while, you need to repeat the rules of staying calm and polite when you go out so that the child remembers them before throwing a tantrum.

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Keep talking to your child or make stories so that your kid remains entertained. Remember the problem generally starts the moment he has nothing to do or think about. On your trip, sing a song,  show him different colors, and teach him different shapes to keep his mind occupied.

For an older child, you can explore a whole lot of conversation which allows him to think more and stay occupied. If all this does not suffice then you have your phone to offer him a quick diversion from public meltdown to staying calm!

Try these parenting tips to avoid the tantrums of kids while outside for a great experience!

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Tuesday, May 3

Top 5 Summer Diet tips for your kids

                                                                          
Long school hours, outdoor physical activity, and scorching sun can leave your kids drained out. Let not hot temperature mess with the health of your child. Check out these quick Summer Diet tips for your kids and enjoy the season happily.

Interesting Summer diet tips for your kids

                                                         
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Light meals digest easily and can provide ample of energy. So include healthy meals such as rice flakes, corn flakes, cold sandwiches, porridge, salads, dal-rice combo to fill little stomachs yet feeling happy and light. It's best to avoid fried and spicy foods which may cause stomach problems.

                                                             Fluids intake

                       
Besides drinking plenty of water, make sure your kids run for different drinks such as homemade fruit juices, fruit-flavored squashes, smoothies, and fruit milkshakes. In addition, buttermilk, lemonade, and flavored glucose should be given from time to time to replenish the lost electrolytes and stay away from DEHYDRATION.

These fluids not only keep the body hydrated but also provide ample nutrients.


                                                                                             


 Fruit break

                                               
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Keep the summer fruits such as watermelon, melon, berries, mangoes, bananas, etc., well in reach of kids. Prepare a colorful fruit salad and serve the kids with a dash of lemon juice and rock salt. Cut them into interesting shapes before you serve or squeeze any fruit and add a couple of ice cubes to attract your kid.

Even better, make popsicles out of fresh fruit juice and see the kids asking for more! You can have 3-4 fruit servings in different forms throughout the day.

                                               
 
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Summer veggies must form part of the daily diet of your kids but it need not be boring. Prepare mix veggie raita ( curd with veggies) wherein you can add cucumber, onion, and tomato to well-stirred curd. Garnish it with coriander leaves.

Else, prepare fruit raita using bananas, mangoes, and pomegranates. Kids would love to create and eat a colorful dish meal.


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Another easy tip is to spread pizza sauce or any favorite sauce of child on roti (or tortilla) and add cooked veggies or dry chicken recipe to it. Now, roll the roti to get the ready-to-eat recipe for school hours or at home.

With this recipe, you will be relieved that your fussy kid is getting nutrients of whole food and veggies at the same time without any hassle!


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Now, how can we ignore the daily dose of sweets to kids, but of course in proportion? Instead of ordering pastries, cakes, and icecreams from outside every time, try these at home.

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Kids would love a visually delightful dish coming from your kitchen which can be as simple as vanilla ice cream with toppings of fresh fruits, dry fruits, or chocolate sauce dressing.
                                
Mango ice cream, triple sundae, fruit cream, custard, cheesecake are some of the recipes that are easy to make but provide ample of taste and energy too!

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Friday, April 8

Top reasons why your child does not eat

                                                 
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Worried about your child not eating enough?

Healthy nutrition is the priority of every mother. But when a child does not eat properly, it becomes a cause of worry. Let's check out probable reasons why your child does not eat.

Top reasons Why Your Child Does Not Eat

He does not like the smell, taste or appearance of the food. When introduced for the first time the child may not be tempted to eat the new dish as his sensory organs disapprove it. No need to worry this phase shall go away naturally, just be patient!
   
He has had enough of snacks. Snacking just before dinner time often results in no eating on the dinner table. So watch out if your kid runs for snacks, probably he is hungry and needs to be served meal earlier than others.

Sometimes, kids are too tired that all they want is rest. Check if your kid is rubbing his eyes and lying low, then it's better to give him enough sleep. He will make up for the skipped meal next time!


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Too much pressure on the child to eat results in withdrawal. So it's better to cool off and let the child naturally accept your choice of foods.


The child has stomach issues. Often the kid does not understand that he has stomach problems such as constipation and therefore, not tempted to eat anything. This issue is difficult to diagnose. Observe your child carefully if he has a stomach problem, resolve that first and you will see the difference in his appetite.

Food allergy is another reason that your child does not eat properly or is selective. 

Restrictions on what to eat and what not can be boring or irritating. Probably you need to be innovative to attract them to the table instead of labeling them as a fussy eater.

The child probably cannot chew or does not know how to chew and thus spill out half-eaten food.

The child is not keeping well and hence loses her appetite. As soon as she becomes well, she will gain interest in eating.

Slow growth is another reason for not eating especially among toddlers. When their growth picks up, their picky eating habit will diminish.

Kids on formula foods often avoid normal foods of different tastes in comparison to the kids who are nurtured on breastmilk.

Distractions like that of television interfere with the normal eating routine of a child. So let the kid focus on his plate and distractions can wait!   

 

Sometimes, its just a phase when a kid is obsessed with a particular kind of food or taste. Be patient, your fussy eater kid will overcome this habit and develop taste for new foods.

Check your eating habits first. Yes, it is important coz the child will imitate what you will do. So drop your bad habit of snacking or skipping a meal or being too choosy before you complain of your child's habits. Got it?

Now, you know why reasons why your child does not eat. So, just be innovative and patient while your fussy eater turns a happy eater.




Friday, March 18

5 Things to avoid in your child's presence


Kids are fast learners than you can think. Whatever you do or speak gets imprinted on their minds and you can soon find them doing or saying the same. Scary, no? There are certain things which you would not like them to learn and do. For that you will have to avoid the following things in your child's presence:

Parenting Tips- 5 things to Avoid in Your Child's Presence


Yelling at each other

Getting mad at something or at someone happens with everyone. And at that moment, we let our emotions blurt out.

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Avoid losing temper and yelling in front of kids.

However, for parents, losing your temper and yelling at each other is certainly a bad example for kids. Try to maintain your composure even in adverse situations. That ways your kid will also learn to handle his emotions and situations calmly.


Acting sarcastically

A good sense of humor adds so much fun to conversations. A little bit of teasing or pulling someone else's leg is normal as well.

However, making fun of somebody sarcastically or letting someone down may not go down well with your kid. Your kids have high regard for you and the only way to retain that respect is through respectful behavior for others. Choose your words carefully and act in the way you expect from others.


Think before you utter your next fib

As parents, we want our kids to imbibe the best values like honesty, courtesy, etc. But when it comes to ourselves, telling small lies seems okay as it makes our life convenient at times. However, there is a flip side to this.

Fibs may be entertaining for you but in the long run, you are teaching your kids that telling lies is okay. So, be honest and genuine as far as possible in front of your kids. Your actions set the foundation for your kid's behavior.

                              
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Social media has become part and parcel of our daily life. In fact, it helps us to stay connected with friends and family.

But, too much online connection with distant friends may result in disconnection with your own kids. Moreover, you need to set a good example in front of your kids by way of spending quality time with them both indoors and outdoors.

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Using shameful words in front of kids

Using curse words has become'in' somehow. Many of us use these words to express our feelings on various occasions. Do we really need to use these words?

If you want your child not to use particular words then you need to check yourself first while talking to someone over the phone or arguing with the neighbor and other situations. The kids pick these words fast and may become a part of their habit.



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Friday, March 11

5 things you need to say to your kid daily

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Your munchkin may be too small to say what he wants or wants to hear from you. However, he understands how you feel for him, through your actions and words or maybe the absence of these. Certain words have a deep impact on the psyche of a child. By saying certain words you may build the bond or tarnish it for life!!

Probably you may not have realized but if you say these special words daily to your kids, it will have a positive impact on them. They are surely going to love you more when you mean what you say.

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5 things you need to say to your kid daily



Good morning, dear

Morning time is full of chaos and confusion especially if you have school going kids. However, find a couple of minutes to cuddle and hug your kid while you are waking her. It will be a lovely way to start her day with a smile, warmth, and love.

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Thank you so much

Whenever your kid follows your guidelines, completes the allotted task, or modifies his ways than saying " thank you" is the best way to show your appreciation and gratitude. Needless to say, the child will himself imbibe this value in his life.

Please


Yes, parents need to say" please" to kids. Your polite response will have a far-reaching positive impact on children than any other way such as yelling which leads to nowhere.


Sorry

Be prompt to say sorry to your child whenever you feel you are not able to fulfill your promise or you have committed a mistake. It brings you closer to your kid and sets a good example of ideal behavior for your child. Its a symbol of strength and not a weakness of your personality.

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Good night

No matter how much you are exhausted and in a hurry to hit the bed, always pay a visit to your child's room and wish him good night. Just remind him that you always love him.

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