Tuesday, December 27, 2016

7 Steps to build Confidence of Your Child

What would you do if you find your growing child is losing confidence? Praise her minutest of actions or shower her with gifts that are actually not required?

That is not going to help much as the child will depend upon you to feel good about herself or may be, she will consider herself above others which is not healthy either. So what all can be done that help her stay confident?

                                                   

Here are simple and easy ways to build confidence of your teenage daughter or son:

Let her make choices

Avoid taking each and every decision on behalf of your kid. Let her decide what works best for her out of certain options such as a 10 year old can be given a chance to decide what dress to buy for her birthday instead of telling what will be good for her. That will boost her confidence a lot.

Let her follow her hobbies/ interests




Your child is interested in theatre or sports then let her join classes and help her to continue her passion. Even if it means rescheduling your day! This will develop her self-esteem and inspire her to accomplish what she started.

Let her have a say in family matters!

On occasions such as Christmas or New Year party, ask kids to give their inputs with respect to decoration, card making, menu, her guest list,etc. This will make them feel important and of course, boost their self-esteem. In daily routine too, give your teen space to decide on usual matters and cooperate in little things such as cooking, tidying up the living room,etc

Allow your teen to take risks

Being overprotective does not let kid take risks and learn from her own experiences. Therefore, allow her to take small risks in your presence. My daughter's friend got stuck in lift and from that moment my 8 year old daughter was scared of going alone in the lift. But I encouraged her and assured that I would stand and watch in front of elevator till she reaches safely. That worked for us and now she confidently takes the elevator alone.

Help her to recover from failures

When she fails to perform as per the expectations of her teachers or peers, her confidence may dip. At that time your words of encouragement and your opinion about the situation can do a lot to build her confidence again. Remind her of her past accomplishments, beautiful experiences and pictures that reflect her positives.

Model healthy self-confidence in front of kids

Your own opinion about yourself and your response to various situations shape the mindset of your kids. Therefore, watch out your actions as you are always monitored by your kids. They are going to follow your footsteps.

Unconditional love

If your acceptance goes beyond the grades and performance of your child then come what may, your child will reflect positive attitude in everything he does. So, love unconditionally even if he fails to perform better or take wrong decisions.


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