Sunday, December 31, 2017

Empower your bond with your growing kids in easy steps

           
                                                   

Do you feel you and your kids are living in different zones? Do you realize that you are short of time to connect with your growing kids like you used to? And you seriously want to do something about it to strengthen the magical bond between you and your kids despite of all those hectic schedules, household chores, hobby classes, extra curricular activities of kids, social obligations and so on.

Here are easy steps to EMPOWER your bond with your growing kids:

Five minute wonder: Even five minutes of one-to-one talking with your kid  daily can be so refreshing for both of you and it's not that difficult to trace those moments. You can have a light conversation with your child when you drop her or pick up from school. Else if she is going for a hobby class or for a regular doctor visit, simply inquire about her progress or about her day, will allow her to open up with you. To make it more special, give her a nice hug when you meet her after her school and you can see the renewed connection.

Leave notes for kids: Whenever you feel you won't be able to find time to connect with them, ensure that your absence does not sadden them. Make notes with cute messages, inspiring words which will warm their hearts and place them on their study table, bed or on the door. In case, your growing child has mobile phone then you can share messages and stay in touch.

                                                   

Wishlist:  Ask your kids to prepare a list that they want to do with you which probably, they have missed doing with you lately. Prepare your own list as well and compare. Most probably, you will find a couple of things common between theirs' and yours' lists. It can be  playing board game with you, reading out story or even making a dish together in kitchen.

Timer, please: Now this one is interesting to quickly steal some moments. You have a couple of tasks to complete and your daughter wants to play with you. What you can do is to set a timer of say 15 minutes in which you would complete a set of tasks and your kid will finish her tasks as well. Play some good music, set the timer and start executing your tasks. It will be a great way to encourage kids to finish their work and enjoy together.

Share your thoughts: Make it a point to share any incident or funny thought with your kid daily. Crack a joke, narrate your childhood memories or may be discuss things happening around- that's an interesting way to connect with your kid and understand what's going in his mind and his life.

Lend your ears patiently: No matter how important is your email or how boring the incident is for you, listen out to him as whatever he is sharing is important for him and even more important is the person to whom he is sharing.  Your patience of few moments can earn you the bond of lifetime!

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Practice gratitude at home:  Take a moment to thank your children for keeping things back at their place, for making their beds or anything else even if its very little. It makes a lot of difference for them as you acknowledge their contribution and their efforts. In addition, you can see the same habit being infused in them naturally.

Monthly affair:  Frequent outings with kids may be a difficult thing to plan but you can ensure once a month fun filled day in any form. It can be watching movie together, camping in the backyard, traveling, playing under the sun, shopping together, or anything else that gives a chance to have exclusive time with kids.





Thursday, September 21, 2017

Diet tips to ease anxiety in kids

                                                               
                                                               


Anxiety and stress are no longer restricted to adults. These seem to be prevalent among young children and teenagers. The reasons for the increase in everyday anxiety in kids and teenagers can be several such as parental control, family atmosphere, peer pressure, exam stress, school performance, health issues, some kind of phobia/ fears, etc. However, simple changes in diet can defuse the everyday stress.

Here are diet tips to ease anxiety in kids:

                                                             
Omega 3 Fatty acids: Foods rich in Omega 3 fatty acid eases anxiety as they activate production of serotonin levels. Examples of omega 3 fatty acid foods are flax seeds, tofu, and fish. Include these foods in the daily diet of your child and help him calm down.

                                             
                                   

Vitamin B foods: Deficiency of Vitamin B can lead to irritable behavior, confusion, and anxiety. Foods rich in Vitamin B are ideal to counter such issues. Therefore, go for eggs, whole grain foods, citrus fruits, and almonds to fulfill the requirements of Vitamin B in kids.

Foods rich in Tryptophan: Tryptophan naturally relaxes the mind by producing neurotransmitters such as serotonin. It is helpful in regulating sleep and mood. Foods such as turkey, oats, soy, and sesame seeds should be given to anxious kids to relax them.
                                       
                                                                   
Water: Nothing can beat the power of water to de-stress and relax the mind as well as the body. So, encourage your kids to drink plenty of water on a regular basis as it will keep dehydration induced anxiety at bay.

Probiotics: Probiotics such as yogurt restricts harmful bacteria growth and promotes the healthy immune system as well as gut. This ensures reduced stress and anxiety levels.

Avoid fried foods, caffeine, and too sugary foods especially when the child is feeling anxiety. Instead, focus on fruits and vegetables that nourish kids with ample of nutrients.

Besides, kids may tend to overeat when stressed out. Keep healthy foods/ recipes ready so that they reach out to only nutrient-rich foods. Simultaneously, engaging them in indoor or outdoor activities will also help to reduce their stress levels.

Everyday stress can happen but now, you know the above diet tips to ease anxiety in kids.


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Tuesday, December 27, 2016

7 Steps to build Confidence of Your Child

What would you do if you find your growing child is losing confidence? Praise her minutest of actions or shower her with gifts that are actually not required?

That is not going to help much as the child will depend upon you to feel good about herself or may be, she will consider herself above others which is not healthy either. So what all can be done that help her stay confident?

                                                   

Here are simple and easy ways to build confidence of your teenage daughter or son:

Let her make choices

Avoid taking each and every decision on behalf of your kid. Let her decide what works best for her out of certain options such as a 10 year old can be given a chance to decide what dress to buy for her birthday instead of telling what will be good for her. That will boost her confidence a lot.

Let her follow her hobbies/ interests




Your child is interested in theatre or sports then let her join classes and help her to continue her passion. Even if it means rescheduling your day! This will develop her self-esteem and inspire her to accomplish what she started.

Let her have a say in family matters!

On occasions such as Christmas or New Year party, ask kids to give their inputs with respect to decoration, card making, menu, her guest list,etc. This will make them feel important and of course, boost their self-esteem. In daily routine too, give your teen space to decide on usual matters and cooperate in little things such as cooking, tidying up the living room,etc

Allow your teen to take risks

Being overprotective does not let kid take risks and learn from her own experiences. Therefore, allow her to take small risks in your presence. My daughter's friend got stuck in lift and from that moment my 8 year old daughter was scared of going alone in the lift. But I encouraged her and assured that I would stand and watch in front of elevator till she reaches safely. That worked for us and now she confidently takes the elevator alone.

Help her to recover from failures

When she fails to perform as per the expectations of her teachers or peers, her confidence may dip. At that time your words of encouragement and your opinion about the situation can do a lot to build her confidence again. Remind her of her past accomplishments, beautiful experiences and pictures that reflect her positives.

Model healthy self-confidence in front of kids

Your own opinion about yourself and your response to various situations shape the mindset of your kids. Therefore, watch out your actions as you are always monitored by your kids. They are going to follow your footsteps.

Unconditional love

If your acceptance goes beyond the grades and performance of your child then come what may, your child will reflect positive attitude in everything he does. So, love unconditionally even if he fails to perform better or take wrong decisions.


Wednesday, December 21, 2016

Warning signals your child is low on confidence

                                               
Teenager with low confidence stays aloof.

Low confidence in your teenager can restrict him/her to a shell. He may not be able to lead a healthy social life or tap his inner talent which he can otherwise do if he has faith in himself.

If you want to expand the horizon of your teenager child and desire to help him lead a happy life then check the probable signs of low confidence in your teenager boy or girl. Only if you are able to identify these warning signals, you can give the right direction to your child and make him more confident for anything and everything that comes his way.

Here are warning signals that your child has low confidence:

  • He avoids meeting/ communicating with his friends and class fellows; tries to stay aloof.
  • He avoids participating in challenges and competitions due to fear of failure.
  • He gives in to the demands of his peer group and is not able to say "no".
  • He looks for approval for his decisions and actions everytime because he is not confident.
  • He does not finish a task as soon as he feels difficulty and quits without trying enough.
  • He does not take initiative and tries to hide himself when situation arises to take responsibility.
  • He/ she blames people or situations for his own incompetency.
  • He has mood swings ranging from irritable behaviour, anxiety, hopelessness, aloofness and sadness.
  • He is self-critical and uses negative words for himself such as loser, fool, etc
  • He either rebels without a reason or is overly helpful to seek approval.
  • He tries to seek attention of people around him through unreasonable actions.
  • He tries to control people around him. 
  • He gets into drinking, drugs, tobacco,etc.

The teenager may have some of the above symptoms which clearly indicate low self-esteem in him. Once it is established, parents can look for possible reasons and ways to deal with the low self-esteem in their child.

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Friday, December 9, 2016

Are you hurting self-esteem of your growing kid?

                                                                      


While it's okay to feel low some times but feeling low about oneself continuously is not a good sign especially among growing kids. Sometimes even as parents we can't estimate the causes of low self-esteem in kids. There can be several reasons that make a child less confident and sadly, at times, parents contribute to low self-confidence in their own child.

Now when a kid has deficient self-esteem then it needs to be rectified before it has severe effect on the psyche and life of the kid. The first step to handle low self-esteem in your growing kid is to ascertain probable reasons of the same. Find out if you as a parent has done or undone something that is hurting the confidence of your child.

Let us check out probable causes of low self-esteem and make sure your tween is not going through the same:

When kid feels neglected:

Absence of personal attention and support of parents may lead to low self-esteem in the kid. Whether parents are occupied in work or over engaged on social media, providing quality time to kids is mandatory to make them feel secure. However, if you can’t keep your hands off from your laptop or mobile while your kid is eager to share his story then he may feel neglected causing dip in confidence.

When you over interfere:
                                              
                                                   


If you are one of those who make sure to instruct their tween now and then or check what they are doing all the time, then the child may feel you don’t trust his abilities. Your over indulgence in his every decision and action may erode his confidence to work and achieve independently. So better, keep a check on your over-caring attitude!

When you forget to appreciate enough:

You remember to pinpoint their mistakes but often forget to appreciate their small achievements or endeavours. Instead of showing the right path, if you become overly critical of his actions or use harsh words for the child, the result is your teen feels he is not good enough.
This is not what you want to happen, right?


When you compare with peers

To boost confidence of your child, you compare her to siblings or peers, but it backfired! Constant comparison of performance or behaviour of your child with others or pushing your kid to become like others will definitely cause a serious damage to her self-esteem. Check this habit before it destroys the self-esteem of your child!


When you do not respect:

Mocking their behaviour in front of your friends or spelling out their weaknesses with other adults disgusts your child. When you try to prove how your child is silly, not good enough or bad at something, he assumes that he is not worthy for his parents.

When you give up on your child:

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When you give up the hope that your teenager can improve, he also gives up his hope, you know. Your discouraging attitude and words has a deep negative effect on him that may not be reversible.

So before you expect your child to be responsible, sensible, hardworking or any thing else, check if you have any of the above habits that can damage his self-esteem!


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Thursday, October 13, 2016

Proactive ways to avoid tantrums of kids in public

                                                   

Have you seen kids throwing tantrums in full public view, in the middle of the market place, in the park or may be at clinic? You thought your kids will not behave like that until one day your kid actually embarrass you with unstoppable tantrum. Its natural whether you like it or not.

But it can be avoided, diverted or managed with some proactive ways to avoid tantrums by kid in public. How? Let's read now!


Share your list of work to be done or things to be purchased from the store

                                                         
Start planning for a smooth shopping experience with your child at the mall from home itself. Share the purpose of your visit, the necessary things you need to buy/ do and how he will benefit if this task is done smoothly. It will excite the child to go for the shopping for the same purpose and perhaps to support you in this job in his own small ways.

Allow your child to participate in your grocery shopping

Show your kid the items you need to buy such as corn flakes, biscuits, etc at home. Ask him to look out for these cartons/ packets while in the store so that he focuses on your purchases and not his own. This would prompt his participation in your work without getting diverted to other things that may lead to tantrums.

Ask your child to make his own list

                                                       
Ask your child at home to share what he/ she wants from the store and discuss whether you can fulfill that requirement or not. If the thing is worthy then note it down in your list in front of him so that he is assured that his demand will be met. So chances of kid being happy and not cranky are higher!

Never move out of the house on an empty stomach

Before you step out with your kid especially for shopping, always have a good meal/ snack time with him. That will ensure your toddler/ kid will not throw tantrum to buy snack or drink for him as soon as you reach the store. Though it's a bit difficult that your toddler does not cry for anything at all especially candies, ice creams or cold drinks, yet you can take this proactive action.

                                           


Also you can allow him to carry his own small bag with his favorite snack, biscuit, water bottle, book and a toy which may help him to stay engaged for longer duration.

Make rules and stay consistent

Tell your child clearly how to voice his demands when outside. Also make clear he can have his way only if he is polite enough and tantrums will only lead to loss of rewards. In addition, you can inform him that you are going for a definite time to complete certain tasks and need to return on time.

You can give him options of enjoying with his toy or listening to music or reading a book if he feels bored. All the while, you need to repeat the rules of staying calm and polite when you go out so that the child remembers them before throwing a tantrum.

Keeping engaged is the mantra
        

Keep talking to your child or make stories so that your kid remains entertained. Remember problem generally starts the moment he has nothing to do or think about. A mom of toddler can sing a poem or song while driving, show him different colors and teach him different shapes while pondering over the items to buy.
For an older child, you can explore whole lot of conversation which allows him to think more and stay occupied. If all this does not suffice then you have your phone to offer him for a quick diversion from public meltdown to staying calm!

Therefore, for a great experience outside with kids, do your homework first and stay calm!

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Wednesday, September 28, 2016

9 steps for better immunity of your kid

Good health of children is of topmost importance for a parent. However, growing pollution, infections, and allergies, stress levels, etc take a toll on their immunity system. So what can be the possible solutions to bestow better immunity to your child from the beginning? Here, check these out:

                                                     

Breast milk for the baby: Breast-feed your baby from day one as in the initial few days;  mother's milk contains 'colostrum' which provides immunity to the baby from several diseases. Also, continue to feed her your milk as it has white blood cells as well as power-packed antibodies that enhance immunity. This initiative will not only protect your child from several infections, allergies and critical diseases but also enhance her brainpower.

Sufficient sleeping time: While a baby requires 18 hours of sleep, a preschooler should get at least ten hours of sleep time. It is important to boost immunity of kids from very young age. Sleep deprivation otherwise may lead to several kinds of illness.

Read more: Benefits of good sleep for kids

Fruits and vegetables: A child has better immunity if he consumes healthy diet,which comprises of fruits and vegetables such as beans, carrots, oranges, lemons, papaya, strawberries, spinach, broccoli and grapefruits. Such foods have immunity-enhancing phytonutrients that help the body to fight with infections and diseases.



Include herbs in diet: Herbs such as basil leaves, garlic, ginger, turmeric and ginseng contain antioxidant properties and boost the immunity of kids. Therefore, include these in the diet of children so that they safeguard the kids from general infections and ailments like cold, fever, flu, stomach problems to more serious issues such as diabetes, cancer and degenerative diseases.

                                             


Vitamin D: Let your child soak in sunshine so that he/ she absorbs the goodness of Vitamin D. It would help him to stay fit and free from infections.

Cleanliness for immunity: Encourage kids to wash hands with soap before and after mealtime to avoid infections. Its essential to wash hands frequently soon after play time, pet care, after using washroom, after coming from school, after sneezing and so on. While traveling outside, carry disposable napkins, sanitizer, towel and soap to maintain hygiene and keep the immunity level intact.

Read more: Cleanliness habit in kids



Exercise for immunity boost: An easy way to enhance immunity of kids is to exercise and play actively with them such as aerobics, yoga, biking, football, basketball, etc.

Read more: Benefits of yoga for kids

Avoid antibiotics: Avoid antibiotics as far as possible as frequent use will lower the immunity of kids and make bacteria resistant to antibiotics.


Avoid secondhand smoke: Secondhand smoke adversely affects the immunity of the kids as they inhale the smoke faster,which leads to destruction of healthy cells in the body. The kids become more vulnerable to infections, bronchitis, neurological issues,etc.

So, take these 9 steps for better immunity of your kid and stay happy!